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Reaction formation

: a psychological defense mechanism in which one form of behavior substitutes for or conceals a diametrically opposed repressed impulse in order to protect against it.

– Merriam-Webster dictionary

Some people burn bridges, I tend to hurl wrecking balls at them. Drunken fists full.

Sometimes we say and do things we don’t mean
because it’s easier than being vulnerable.

To get a reaction, even if it’s a bad one. So you can run away from an insurmountable problem you’ve created than to admit and endure what’s really bothering you.

This entry was written by Joey, posted on September 19, 2010 at 8:08 am, filed under Psychology, Self-diagnoses and tagged , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.

I suffer from the spotlight effect.

I am deeply egocentric. I can guarantee you that I can and often do spin, twist and wry any event as a manifestation of the universe and its people unto, because and about me. Also, I believe that I am being watched and scrutinized by others.

Frankly, this is simply untrue.

“Indeed, close inspection reveals frequent disparities between the way we view our performance… and the way it is actually seen by others.” (Gilovich et al., 2000)

“I think you’re crazy” – Michelle

I need to let go of it. At least some.

Reference:
Gilovich, T., Medvec, V. H. & Savitsky, K. (2000). The Spotlight Effect in Social Judgement: An Egocentric Bias in Estimates of the Salience of One’s Own Actions and Appearance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78 211-222.

This entry was written by Joey, posted on February 1, 2010 at 6:36 am, filed under Psychology, Self-diagnoses and tagged , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.