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I married Adam.
We went to the Beverly Hills Courthouse and the whole ceremony lasted about 10 minutes.
I don’t remember any our vows.
But I’m pretty sure I promised to love you forever.
Which is all that matters.
Well that, and that I didn’t look like a fat cinderella
in my $50 dress,
Santee Alley shoes,
and perfect ring.
Love is all that matters
and friends
and family
your giant family
and our little one.
Photos by Alexandra Kacha at Alexandra Kacha Photography
Flowers by Sarah Lineberger at Hand and Rose
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One Revolution Around The Sun from MTV c/o Richard Turley on Vimeo.
I started wearing my wedding band again. To remind myself that I’m stronger than I feel. I recently interviewed Amy Jo Martin, who wore red nail polish every day for 5 years as a confidence trigger whenever she felt unworthy.
This is my wedding band. It’s an ouroboros. Eternal chaos and renewal. My physician told me that my life has been series of crises, one after the other. He referred me to a crisis therapist, but I never called. Because I never feel stressed or sad unless it involves a broken heart.
Otherwise, I’m stronger than I feel.
In our time of shiny happy social media feeds, I figured I’d try to review my year in earnest and show you all of the darker periods and how it’s ok. How I’m doing ok and whatever shit you’re going through – that too shall pass.
THE CRISES
Divorce
This was the year that my divorce was final. And although I haven’t spoken to Chris since I filed a restraining order against him, it marked a real sense of closure. I don’t talk about this often, as it is a particularly painful story – but it is over. The important lessons are to always put your personal safety first and never let a broken person, break you.
This was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to overcome, which is why I’ve chosen the ring as my talisman for courage.
My boss, the CEO of American Apparel, Dov Charney gets booted from the company he founded
This has been covered extensively in the news. And while it may be fun schadenfreude fodder for those who have participated in the culture of American Apparel in some way for the past decade, this had very real and difficult ramifications in my life.
While I had been living out of a suitcase since 2009, I was accustomed to the organised chaos and rhythm in which we ran the company. I’d written about my thoughts on this here. There was an extremely high level of uncertainty and instability.
When you’ve dedicated most of the waking hours of your adult life to working there as I had, it often feels like your career is all you have. Some malevolent force was fucking with the one constant, my every day, my foundation, my family.
I was fired
After 7 years of tenure, I was fired from both of my positions at American Apparel as Marketing Director and Retail Director of our Australian subsidiary. Under new management and within 2 weeks of a new supervisor – I encountered hostile bullying and discrimination, filed an HR complaint, 48 hours later I was out of a job, my US work visa, and $40,000 worth of unpaid bonuses.
This didn’t stop them from taking credit for positive work that myself and my colleagues were responsible for, after throwing us out the door.
American Apparel has filed for bankruptcy which make my shares worthless and legal claims effectively frozen. But bad situations give us the best ideas, my views changed in ways I never thought they would.
When cash is scarce, you figure out what your life essentials are. In things, in people, in beliefs. This means that I no longer put up with a lot of bullshit out of loyalty, obligation, or mercenary reasons.
My dog died
Miss you, Albert Einstein. You were a great physicist.
THE CURES
Now, remember how I said it’ll be alright? I had a destabilising year, but the pros always outweighed the cons and I thank Based God for the generosity of all the people in my life. Here’s what kept me afloat.
Great Sex
Incredible sex will change your life. Let’s not discredit how something so basic can alter your entire mood. I thought I was doing alright in this arena until I was dumbfounded by a specific experience. I asked my partner at the time how he became the best I’d ever had. For someone who never says much, his response was sweet and profound.
“It’s not me, it’s us. It’s about two people connecting, and we’re just very connected.”
Imagine going your entire life having never been vulnerable enough to share that kind of connection with someone.
Sometimes you have to love like you have nothing to lose.
And who knows? Your entire universe might expand in a moment of surrender.
Female Friends
No relationship is stronger than that of a female bond. I wholeheartedly believe this. I just broke up with someone I really, really, really liked. For every time I’ve been in a tailspin, the unconditional support and humour from my friends and sisters have always brought me back to some semblance of sanity.
Women confide in each other and listen, really listen and care. It’s a type of intimacy that may never be achieved through romantic relationships. For romance to work, there has to be some suspension of belief and female friendships are as real as they get. Ugly cries, guilty admissions, secret slobby behaviours, and mental hospitalization levels of cray are all safe territory in the context of BFFs.
Love you, bitches.
Home
I’d never been to Europe before, and this year I made it a priority to get to Paris. It wasn’t all that.
My favourite moments were centered on one-on-one time spent in my air bnb with some very special dear-to-my-heart dudes.
Hot showers shared, home made breakfasts, listening to lesser-known Bieber tracks. It made me miss home.
Home being a person, and not a place.
Here’s to you, my people.
Happy New Year.
With love,
your girl.
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There’s a first time for everything.
This was Magnus’ first time eating in-n-out.
They say it’s quality you can taste.
But the name makes me just as sad as a sad boy.
Cuz once you’ve had a taste
of the best
how do you live
without it?
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It’s a completely different festival, backstage. You forget that there are 65,000 people out there when you only see a dozen of your friends inside an air-conditioned trailer park. Most of them utterly exhausted from festival after flight after festival. The hardest part is the waiting and the watching someone you care about on the brink of collapse, pulling themselves together because their job is to make a sea of strangers happy. That somehow when you haven’t any, the energy must be brought to a pounding pitch.
So you drink as much as you can find, smoke as much as you feel alright about missing a set
and try to find some sanity amongst it all.
Which is hugging your mates from different states and shores.
Getting silly with the sponsored marketing ploys and remembering to enjoy
what you came here for
the music (duh)
and the booty.
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Let him into your heart
and you won’t be so sad, boys.
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they say
If someone says my heart belongs to someone else
You’re supposed to say I’m a strong independent medium beige woman who don’t need no man
If someone says pack up your shit n GTFO
You’re supposed to go peace out see ya wouldn’t wanna be ya
But if you’re me you gotta keep it real wit chyer selfie
and take it one day at the time cuz pretending it’s all gravy sure ain’t easy
(pool helps)
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In new friends?
In no new friends?
In famous?
In family?
In separables?
In selfies?
In Drake?
In 808s and heartbreak?
Or where the path may take?
Happy New Year.
With love,
your girl.
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How did you spend your America’s birthday?
Under the sun?
Giving zeros fucks?
Be an ass if you wanna?
Drinkin’? Watermelon?
Wit’cher boys?
and yer girls?
Pucker up
and plant a juicy one on ’em?
Pound it?
To the beat?
Then POP!
goes your weasel?
In her hair?
Laugh out loud?
‘Til you’re pooped?
Bask in the afterglow?
With someone you love?
By the dawn’s early light?
Or the rocket’s red glare?
Whatever you want, baby.
Cuz FREEDOM, THOUGH.
Featured in this post:
Destinee Handly
George Lewis Jr.
Adrian Rodriguez‘s backyard
This entry was written by , posted on July 8, 2014 at 9:26 am, filed under Babes, Events, Friends, Joey Ng, Los Angeles, Photos and tagged Adrian Rodriguez, American Apparel, Cotton Spandex Jersey Basic Bodysuit, Destinee Handly, George Lewis Jr., Independence Day, Naida Snake Wrap Ring, Regalrose, Silverlake. Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.
Leave it up to America to play a big ol’ game of SPORTS SPORTS SPORTS in the World Cup on Canada’s day.
But all’s fair in love and war
so come one, neck braces, wheelchairs, non-US citizens even, come all. All America asks is that you
and I mean
and even then, like many short-lived romances,
drunken, hungry, and wanting
proud
yet anxious
triumphant
until defeated and disposed. Just remember when you’ve lost. When your sunny day heart breaks, there’s always
Canada.
HAPPY CANADA DAY
xo
Featured in this post:
World Cup viewing hosted by Nike LA at Sixth and Mill
Jasmine Safaeian
Ilirjana Aлусхај
Lobster Roll & Short Rib Poutine from Littlefork
My outfit:
Geo Lace Bodysuit: American Apparel
Acid Wash High-Waist Jean Cuff Short: American Apparel
Flat Lattice Jelly Sandal: American Apparel
Charlotte Bag: (Gifted by) Katherine Kwei
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It’s been a while since I’ve done a food round up of my favourite breakfast product, the egg.
1. Kokuho Rose Brown Rice Bowl. Sqirl, Los Angeles, California
2. Eggs Benedict. Ordered In By Him, Malibu, California
3. Black Truffle Deviled Eggs. Ghetto Gastro, Long Island City, New York
4. Kewpie Mayo Deviled Eggs. Homemade By Me, Manhattan, New York
5. Poached Eggs, Grilled Lemon, Haloumi, Asparagus. Homemade By Me, Los Angeles, California
6. Sicilian Baked Eggs. The Smith, Manhattan, New York
7. Campfire Breakfast. Big Crow, Toronto, Ontario
8. Udon Carbonara. Marugame Monzo, Los Angeles, California
9. Egg White Omelette, Heirloom Tomatoes, Avocado. Homemade By Me, Los Angeles, California
Missing: every time I’ve ordered just plain egss and bacon. Eggs, over easy.
If you’re hungry for a good time tonight, though, please join me at Over Easy LA.
Good friends Ibe Soliman and Colta will be serving up hot tunes.
This entry was written by , posted on June 26, 2014 at 3:01 pm, filed under Events, Food, Los Angeles, New York, Toronto and tagged Big Crow, Colta, Deviled Eggs, Echo Park, Eggs Benedict, Ghetto Gastro, Home Cooking, Ibe Soliman, Little Tokyo, Manhattan, Marugame Monzo, Over Easy LA, Silverlake, Sqirl, The Smith, Udon. Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.