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ask me anything
Will you still love me, tomorrow?

Tell-all Tuesdays:
Please Don’t askfor

You ask, I tell. Selection of questions posted on Tuesdays.

these look great! did you use film or digital for the i love toronto set?

Film – 35mm Olympus Mju II. A present my mother gave to me when I was 14.

Are you ever going to sing us a song again? I remember you did a lovely version of “I’ll never break your heart” – any plans to record another, perhaps for Christmas?

Maybe Christmas, maybe sooner. I don’t know how I feel about singing online anymore

What is your preferred way to spend a (non-working) day – after sleeping in of course?

Ideally, brunch with friends and a lot of laughing. A bit of shopping followed by a nap. Dinner before seeing a band. Drinking, dancing, and lots of making out.

What is your attitude towards sex? Do you experiment?

1. Try anything once 2. With a trustworthy and willing partner. 3. Enjoy yourself.

Are you happy?

I generally like to answer this question in jest with “I don’t have the time to think about whether I’m happy!”. But if I’m going to be honest, then yea, probably more so than I have been in a while. 

Not to say that my life is all double rainbows and bacon wrapped dates but it’s certainly much more interesting and productive.

drugs, or hugs? Don’t lie princess…


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This entry was written by Joey, posted on October 18, 2011 at 3:38 am, filed under Los Angeles, New York, Tell-all Tuesdays, Toronto and tagged , , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.

Tell-all Tuesdays:
Before you ask any question

You ask, I tell. Selection of questions posted on Tuesdays.

How many men have you slept with?
Very few, I rarely truly fall asleep with another person in bed with me. Read this.

Why’d you and the morgan waters show break up????????
I’ve never been in a relationship with a television show.

Would you ever want to try again with the one who got away? I feel like he took a little piece of your heart and every time you write about him it makes me misty in the eye.
The magic of writing about how you feel in regards to people you care for is that those feelings are generally universal. At any given moment I could be writing about anyone, or several ones and/or in reference to one or many applicable instances.

Yes, a long time ago, there was one who took a giant piece of my heart. Maybe even an entire ventricle. Not so much because he ‘got away’ than the fact that he made a conscious decision to be with someone else. I have absolutely no desire to be recklessly in love, under-appreciated and humiliated again.

As for the men who’ve chipped away at the little pieces after that, well, none of our relationships had passed the point of no return. You never know what could happen.

Thank you for reading, though. Dry your eyes, mate.

I think you reveal quite a bit about yourself on the internet. Why do you do that?
I’ve been blogging as early as geocities was around. It started with sharing photos and thoughts with friends long before the advent of facebook. Coming from an international school, my social circle was scattered across the world in the final years of high school. It then became natural for me to document compulsively. I found my outlet for creativity. 

Some people keep their diaries locked up under their beds, I keep mine on the internet. Maybe someone will read something and think “yes, me too” or laugh a little or gain an understanding of another’s perspective.

I don’t want to be alone with my memories.

What is something that not many people know about you?
I’m irrationally afraid of my own mortality. For example, I once walked out of the Simpsons movie (SIMPSONS!) because the scene set in the future where they live in a bubble made me realise I wasn’t going to be alive in year 20-whatever and had a panic attack.

What’s your favourite song right now?
I’m Not the Sun by Arkells. Meredith introduced me to it a few months ago and I still haven’t tired of it.

Are you a sports fan? Who are your favorite teams?
Depends on the sport and the game. Lakers (Basketball), England (Football), Canada (Life).

Got a question for me? Ask away here.

This entry was written by Joey, posted on July 13, 2010 at 2:13 am, filed under Tell-all Tuesdays and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.

Tell-all Tuesdays
It’s not easy being

You ask, I tell. Selection of questions posted on Tuesdays.

You have nice tits. I miss you… And them!
Thank you. Who is this? That wasn’t a question!

Do you think you are a slut?
No. I have very liberal sexual values. I also don’t believe in female-specific derogatory terms based on the frequency of sexual partners one has.

What turns you on?
Tall, lanky boys with light eyes and enough hair to grab on to. A sense of cruel humour and a keyboard controller littered somewhere in his bedroom. Never fails. I always manage to find them.

What is the meanest thing you’ve done to someone else?
One morning as I woke up next to a sweet, handsome, successful man that I was dating in the wake of another break-up, I let him hold me. Kiss my shoulder and nestle into the nook of my neck.

Then I said “I’ll never like you.”

I was being honest. 

Sometimes honesty is fucking cruel.

Any regrets?
Not trusting my instincts on men – letting my guard down and getting my hopes up just long enough for them to hurt me.

do you miss toronto?
I miss certain people, places and things about Toronto. I do feel as though it was time to move on from the city, though.

What’s your favourite club in Toronto?
Wrongbar for DJ sets. The Mod Club for bands.

Got a question for me? Ask away here.

This entry was written by Joey, posted on June 22, 2010 at 10:50 pm, filed under Tell-all Tuesdays and tagged , , , , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.

Tell-all Tuesdays
Who died and made me Queen?

You ask, I tell. Selection of questions get posted on Tuesdays.

You dated morgan waters, correct? Did you enjoy it?
Yes, I dated Morgan Waters.

Why do you hold on to this concept of ‘love’ so endearingly, when the chemical romance phase diffuses out so quickly? Why not have someone who can both love and support you? Why cling on to such an idealistic dream, and wallow when you cannot obtain it?
I hold on to this concept of ‘love’ because all my relationships diffuse before the chemicals stop firing. People need something to hold on to, a prize, a goal, something to aspire to, hope and long for. It keeps you going. I’d like to know what it’s like to get there. All the things that happen while you’re going for it, are pretty great as well.

I’d love to have someone who can both love and support me. Sometimes I feel like I already have that person in my life, I’m just not in a romantic relationship with them. So maybe it is idealistic, to try to find it all in one person. I don’t expect that I will, but I’m damn sure going to try. Practical people have ideals, too.

I think for someone who likes to write, tragedy is romantic. Hanging on to the moments that make you angry or sad juices the creativity out of you. The published word is just a snapshot of the whole picture. I assure you, 90% of the time, I am thinking, talking and taking pictures of what I had for lunch.

How did you lose your virginity? What was he like? Where did it happen?
I met this guy at the open mic night at Einstein’s bar. He was dreamy and lovely. I still see him around from time to time. It happened in my dorm room twinkling with blue fairy lights.

Do you like having sex?
Yes, it’s my sport.

What are the three things you most want to experience in your lifetime?
1. Having a family.

2. Producing something creative that I can be proud of.

3. Seeing my mother truly joyful again.

Who is one person you look up to and why?
Tony Pierce. I only hope to one day be as honest, endearing and dork nasty of a blogger as he is. The blogfather tells it like it is, nay, ought to be. When he tells me what to do, I usually say ‘no’ then end up adhering to his advice anyway. He has built a life of rock n’ roll, hot babes, blogging and true love – what’s not to look up to?

Who are your best friends?
I have a lot of really amazing friends, but if I ever found myself crying in the parking lot of a gay bar in a foreign city because a boy dumped me over text, these are the people I would call.

Toronto: Jacquie, Masha, Meredith, Sam

LA: Candis

SF: Hana

Hong Kong: Sharon

When are you coming back to the Big Smoke?
Not in the foreseeable future.

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This entry was written by Joey, posted on June 15, 2010 at 9:23 pm, filed under Friends, Love, Sex, Tell-all Tuesdays and tagged , , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.

Tell-all Tuesdays
If he wanted to, he would.

You ask, I tell. Best questions get posted on Tuesdays.

Your so bloody hot…why don’t you have a boyfriend?
I’m no good at men.

I don’t expect men to consider me for anything more than just sex and so the self-fulfilling prophecy plays its inevitable part and hands me exactly what I expect.

I’m too cool, too detached to start off.

I don’t call when I want to, I don’t reveal much about myself and certainly not how I feel about the person I’m dating.

Once I decide I actually want someone to be my boyfriend I become too intense, too insecure, too jealous, too obsessive. Too much of everything.

(Now that I’ve admitted this, I’ll NEVER have a boyfriend!)

Because of the nature of my job, I’m always running away.

No boy has ever asked me to stay. 

Maybe that’s why I don’t have a boyfriend?

Or maybe not.

Why do you think?

What’s the deal with women or your age? Is it all about being desired? Is that it? You just want people to pine and be all doe-eyed over you and then your “not attracted” to someone who is genuinely interested, because its not thrilling. Its BS.
What’s the deal with women any age?

What’s the deal with MEN any age?

Doesn’t EVERYONE want to be desired?

Doesn’t everyone like the thrill of finding someone where there is MUTUAL ATTRACTION?

Ay, there’s the rub. Women my age, and of any age do want to be desired. YES, they want someone who is genuinely interested. Just like you do. 

It is BS that not everyone can be genuinely interested in everyone who is genuinely interested in them. That’s why it’s so magical when it works out.

Why do you always get involved with assholes and douche bags when nice guys are always near?
Here’s the thing about attraction, it happens instantly. Before you get to know a person and I mean really get to know them, attraction brings you together. How much can you get to know a guy in a few weeks? Probably not a lot, but lately, that’s all the time I have with someone. If they end up being an asshole or a douche bag, my involvement with them also tends to end. Then you get to hear about it because it’s juicy.

I’ve dated nice guys. I like nice guys.

Nice guys don’t get write ups. Except for in secret blogs. 
The problem is that I am nowhere near them anymore. Even when I want to be.

if you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
I just want to live where I’m in love. I don’t know where that place is yet, which may as well be seeing as I lead a nomadic life.

What is the best part of your life?
I have the greatest friends. Knowing that the most tolerant, intelligent, beautiful people I know are only a phone call, text, e-mail away be they in Hong Kong, Toronto, LA or the UK is the best part of my life. (I know, right?)

If you could go back in time 10 years and give your younger self one sentence of relationship advice, what would you say?
Be patient, if he wanted to, he would.

Have a question for me? Ask away here.

This entry was written by Joey, posted on June 8, 2010 at 8:59 pm, filed under Friends, Love, Self-diagnoses, Sex, Tell-all Tuesdays and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , . Leave a comment or view the discussion at the permalink.