So much is shit right now let’s just focus on something gr8.
These 2 m8s got married.
They knew
the moment he saw her
and smelled each other’s butts
that they’d be m8s for life.
And that first comes love
then comes marriage
then practice making babies and if that doesn’t happen right away don’t be discouraged.
Just remember to have a laugh
slow dance
eat cake
more cake
and doncha forget champagne
or she won’t let you touch that booty.
and to love each other, immensely.
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, posted on February 2, 2017 at 1:14 pm, filed under
One Revolution Around The Sun from MTV c/o Richard Turley on Vimeo.
I started wearing my wedding band again. To remind myself that I’m stronger than I feel. I recently interviewed Amy Jo Martin, who wore red nail polish every day for 5 years as a confidence trigger whenever she felt unworthy.
This is my wedding band. It’s an ouroboros. Eternal chaos and renewal. My physician told me that my life has been series of crises, one after the other. He referred me to a crisis therapist, but I never called. Because I never feel stressed or sad unless it involves a broken heart.
Otherwise, I’m stronger than I feel.
In our time of shiny happy social media feeds, I figured I’d try to review my year in earnest and show you all of the darker periods and how it’s ok. How I’m doing ok and whatever shit you’re going through – that too shall pass.
THE CRISES
Divorce
This was the year that my divorce was final. And although I haven’t spoken to Chris since I filed a restraining order against him, it marked a real sense of closure. I don’t talk about this often, as it is a particularly painful story – but it is over. The important lessons are to always put your personal safety first and never let a broken person, break you.
This was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to overcome, which is why I’ve chosen the ring as my talisman for courage.
My boss, the CEO of American Apparel, Dov Charney gets booted from the company he founded
This has been covered extensively in the news. And while it may be fun schadenfreude fodder for those who have participated in the culture of American Apparel in some way for the past decade, this had very real and difficult ramifications in my life.
While I had been living out of a suitcase since 2009, I was accustomed to the organised chaos and rhythm in which we ran the company. I’d written about my thoughts on this here. There was an extremely high level of uncertainty and instability.
When you’ve dedicated most of the waking hours of your adult life to working there as I had, it often feels like your career is all you have. Some malevolent force was fucking with the one constant, my every day, my foundation, my family.
I was fired
After 7 years of tenure, I was fired from both of my positions at American Apparel as Marketing Director and Retail Director of our Australian subsidiary. Under new management and within 2 weeks of a new supervisor – I encountered hostile bullying and discrimination, filed an HR complaint, 48 hours later I was out of a job, my US work visa, and $40,000 worth of unpaid bonuses.
This didn’t stop them from taking credit for positive work that myself and my colleagues were responsible for, after throwing us out the door.
American Apparel has filed for bankruptcy which make my shares worthless and legal claims effectively frozen. But bad situations give us the best ideas, my views changed in ways I never thought they would.
When cash is scarce, you figure out what your life essentials are. In things, in people, in beliefs. This means that I no longer put up with a lot of bullshit out of loyalty, obligation, or mercenary reasons.
My dog died
Miss you, Albert Einstein. You were a great physicist.
THE CURES
Now, remember how I said it’ll be alright? I had a destabilising year, but the pros always outweighed the cons and I thank Based God for the generosity of all the people in my life. Here’s what kept me afloat.
Great Sex
Incredible sex will change your life. Let’s not discredit how something so basic can alter your entire mood. I thought I was doing alright in this arena until I was dumbfounded by a specific experience. I asked my partner at the time how he became the best I’d ever had. For someone who never says much, his response was sweet and profound.
“It’s not me, it’s us. It’s about two people connecting, and we’re just very connected.”
Imagine going your entire life having never been vulnerable enough to share that kind of connection with someone.
Sometimes you have to love like you have nothing to lose.
And who knows? Your entire universe might expand in a moment of surrender.
Female Friends
No relationship is stronger than that of a female bond. I wholeheartedly believe this. I just broke up with someone I really, really, really liked. For every time I’ve been in a tailspin, the unconditional support and humour from my friends and sisters have always brought me back to some semblance of sanity.
Women confide in each other and listen, really listen and care. It’s a type of intimacy that may never be achieved through romantic relationships. For romance to work, there has to be some suspension of belief and female friendships are as real as they get. Ugly cries, guilty admissions, secret slobby behaviours, and mental hospitalization levels of cray are all safe territory in the context of BFFs.
Love you, bitches.
Home
I’d never been to Europe before, and this year I made it a priority to get to Paris. It wasn’t all that.
My favourite moments were centered on one-on-one time spent in my air bnb with some very special dear-to-my-heart dudes.
Hot showers shared, home made breakfasts, listening to lesser-known Bieber tracks. It made me miss home.
Home being a person, and not a place.
Here’s to you, my people.
Happy New Year.
With love,
your girl.
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, posted on December 31, 2015 at 5:09 pm, filed underThere’s a first time for everything.
This was Magnus’ first time eating in-n-out.
They say it’s quality you can taste.
But the name makes me just as sad as a sad boy.
Cuz once you’ve had a taste
of the best
how do you live
without it?
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, posted on August 25, 2015 at 12:56 pm, filed underIt’s a completely different festival, backstage. You forget that there are 65,000 people out there when you only see a dozen of your friends inside an air-conditioned trailer park. Most of them utterly exhausted from festival after flight after festival. The hardest part is the waiting and the watching someone you care about on the brink of collapse, pulling themselves together because their job is to make a sea of strangers happy. That somehow when you haven’t any, the energy must be brought to a pounding pitch.
So you drink as much as you can find, smoke as much as you feel alright about missing a set
and try to find some sanity amongst it all.
Which is hugging your mates from different states and shores.
Getting silly with the sponsored marketing ploys and remembering to enjoy
what you came here for
the music (duh)
and the booty.
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, posted on August 11, 2015 at 9:09 am, filed underWhy does it have to be so scary
especially when it means growing attached to someone else
heavy the heart that feels responsible for another
for their joy
and their misery
and every emotion in between
how do you know if this is it
what if something better comes along
why do we always assume
something better will come along
what if it doesn’t
what if
what if i’m the best you’ll ever have
it should be so simple, really
just put your hand on your heart
and ask yourself
do you want me now
and will you still love me
tomorrow?
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, posted on May 15, 2015 at 11:00 am, filed underI went home to Toronto for a few days and found myself making plans with too many people and then only following through with a few. Morty‘s one of ’em. I’ve known him for a decade. It’s always comforting to be around those who’ve been around before you’ve been around the block. Before the banal, before the baggage, before the blogs.
This vine on his ceiling has been growing for five years and we’ve only just met. Last time I saw anything dangling in his bedroom it was two ladies eclipsed by a closed door.
Now he uses his boyish good looks and Upper Canadian charm to coax salad from seeds. He fed me a kale leaf plucked from the ancient Chinese clay and tilapia rig he’s got because he’s the G.O.A.T.
Know what else is great?
The fact that he gives out free unadultered advice to weirdos.
And since I hear he’s single, maybe he just needs the right one to call.
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, posted on April 15, 2015 at 11:00 am, filed underCrossing that bridge cuz I got there
I don’t check my emails
I do what I want and I been about you and I’m still about you
I’m blogging again
I’ll be fine
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, posted on April 7, 2015 at 10:11 am, filed underthey say
If someone says my heart belongs to someone else
You’re supposed to say I’m a strong independent medium beige woman who don’t need no man
If someone says pack up your shit n GTFO
You’re supposed to go peace out see ya wouldn’t wanna be ya
But if you’re me you gotta keep it real wit chyer selfie
and take it one day at the time cuz pretending it’s all gravy sure ain’t easy
(pool helps)
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, posted on April 6, 2015 at 11:05 am, filed under“You’ve reached Richard S. Gimbel the Second. Adjunct Professor, a Fashion Designer, and Visual Merchandising. Maker of unique apparel items and accessories. Amateur investigator. Native Phoenician and U.S. Patriot. Disc Jockey and traveling talent support. Likes architecture, confused by Burning Man. Please leave a message ranked in a scale of importance of 1 to 10. 1 being the invitation for a casual coffee date and 10 being the directions to a fall-out shelter on the eve of an impending nuclear Winter. Thank you. Have a good day.”
Richard Scott Gimbel II, February 17th, 1979 – January 15th, 2012.
10. Always 10 ever since.
I miss you.
Every day.
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, posted on January 15, 2015 at 3:26 pm, filed underIn new friends?
In no new friends?
In famous?
In family?
In separables?
In selfies?
In Drake?
In 808s and heartbreak?
Or where the path may take?
Happy New Year.
With love,
your girl.
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, posted on December 31, 2014 at 5:05 pm, filed under